2013 Workshops

Addicted to “Crack”: The Joy of Single-Tails!Luca

Beginner/no experience required

A simple tool used for animal husbandry and pain compliance in numerous cultures through the ages, the single-tail is also one of the most iconic instruments in our community. The clichéd phrase “whips and chains” evokes meaning even for those with only a vague awareness of the many activities and lifestyles loosely grouped under the BDSM umbrella. For some, the crack of a whip is its own fetish. In play with others, the whip can be a kiss or a bite, and can facilitate intensely powerful scenes for both sadist and masochist. Yet currently the whip is seldom seen in public play. In this “0.5-level” workshop we will attempt to demystify the whip as a starting point for further learning. We will look at the different kinds of whips, key points for playing with them safely, and a simple throw for play. There will be a brief demonstration.

 

Breath-Induced and Minimum-Contact Orgasms: The Sceptic’s ViewTania Hernández

Beginner/no experience required

Coming on command, coming by non-genital contact and coming at will are for some people great achievements of erotic refinement or even proof of absolute illumination. Some sex gurus from sunny California even make a living giving workshops on the topic. New-agey people call breath-induced orgasms “fire breath” and claim that it has something to do with kundalini and can be cultivated by chanting chakra names every morning. Yet here I am, a fully agnostic orgasmic bomb on two humanistic legs. I’ll demo orgasms by breath, by hand-holding, by touching the tip of the nose and by other minimum-contact points suggested by the audience. I’ll take questions from the audience, and I’ll affirm that I do not believe in kundalini, energy or chakras, but maybe I do believe in “every morning.”

 

Circle Time for Kinky Health and Mental Health Care WorkersSusan

All Levels

This workshop is a facilitated discussion for all varieties of health and mental health care workers who are both part of and occasionally serve community. As members of this community, we are often called upon to provide our expertise and serve it in corners where it is often manifestly underserved. However, this can create ethical dilemmas that range from the trivial to the gargantuan. While we can’t be sure we will solve any, getting these ideas on the table for discussion and understanding the dilemmas more thoroughly will benefit the entire community. This workshop is open to anyone who works in a field that generates or deals in personal health information as defined by the Personal Health Information Act: therapists, social workers, social service workers, RMTs, RPTs, docs, nurses, front line supports and so forth. All participants will be expected to hold the contents of the discussion in strict confidence and will also be expected to hold to the ethical standards of their occupation regarding confidentiality of clients and patients.

 

Consent and Context: Negotiating Consent – Karen B. K. Chan

All levels

In this workshop we will explore: common agreements about consent; the grey areas we encounter; whether black-and-white definitions of consent are useful, and if so, when; and whether and how the context of systemic oppressions and inequities impact consent (e.g., gender and gender normativity, race, sexuality, body size, dis/abilities, class, etc.), through an anti-oppressive lens, and in accessible, everyday language.

 

Daddy Dominants: Breaking the Taboo of Age Play – Master ASLAN

Intermediate/some experience required

Be it role-play, secret lifestyle or full on public play, the Daddy/girl, Daddy /boy dynamic can bring up some very deep rooted emotions. What does it take to be a Daddy dominant? What are the roles and responsibilities of a Daddy dominant to his little girl/boy? What about discipline? What are the basic tools? How does the dominant role work effectively in such an emotionally vulnerable relationship? Why would a consenting adult be drawn to the Daddy girl/boy dynamic? How does one navigate the desire to be little, protected, and in need of Daddy’s firm hand while still maintaining the emotional and physical boundaries necessary to maintain trust for yourself and your partner? This class presents some strategies for navigating and tools for understanding your desire to participate in one of the most powerful relationship dynamics in BDSM. Bring your questions and experience. Due to the taboo nature of age play the content of this workshop could be triggering for some participants. I aim to create a safe space for participants to explore their desires surrounding Daddy dominants and age play. I hope to create some guidelines for emotional safety as well as provide tools for both Daddies and little girls/boys to explore their relationship in a way that creates a feeling of empowerment and of course pleasure.

 

Fucking #GirlsLikeUs – Cassidy and Lisa

All levels

A crash course in fucking trans women! We’ll cover some misconceptions, what to ask and not ask, what feels good, and what trans women of different backgrounds and bodies may want or need to have great sex! We’ll cover topping, bottoming and switchy fucking. We’ll give you an idea of when to use gloves and lube, how different forms of bodily autonomy affect our bits and share our secret “muffings” recipe! We assume that attendees will already have a grasp of trans 101 and that the word “cis” is a part of their vocabulary. We also wish to point out that we’re not here to be non-consensually fetishized. While we have experience fucking as and with trans women, we’re far from being ultimate experts. If you have things to share or questions to ask, we’d love to hear from you in a facilitated discussion at the end of the presentation.

 

Leather Family: Sharing our Stories and Ideas – Danny Cass and Stella S.

All Levels

This workshop will explore the meanings Leather family holds for us as women and trans folks. Come to share your stories and thoughts, or just to listen. We will share stories and ideas on a wide range of themes, such as: What is Leather family? Why form Leather family? Describing your Leather family/pack; forming, joining or living in Leather family; ending Leather relationships; balancing more than one family; integrating Leather relatives into other aspects of life; critiques and choosing not to live in Leather family; ceremonies, rituals and protocols; Leather family history; families organized around a particular kink, such as “rope family”; and differences across gay Leather, Leatherdyke, and pan communities. You will have the opportunity to have your contributions recorded for potential use in the upcoming anthology How I Met My Brother (and Other Relatives): Stories and Reflections on Leather Family. You can also submit to the anthology by e-mailing leatherfamilyanthology@gmail.com.

 

Not Just Needles: Incorporating Piercing into Other Play – K

Intermediate/some experience required

So you know how to pierce, but now what? This workshop will talk about and demonstrate practical ways of incorporating piercing into other play. Some examples include impact, caning, wax, sexual stimulation/pleasure, decoration, punishment, bondage, pulling and threading. We will also discuss how risk may change to both bottom and top (and anyone around) when incorporating needles into larger play, and how to mitigate this risk. Participants are encouraged to come with their own ideas or questions about how to creatively use needles in different ways. If circumstances permit, there will be an opportunity for participants to try out some of the demonstrated techniques under supervision.

 

Part-time D/s: Building Skills for Part-Time Relationships – Roryboy

All Levels

Any intimate relationship dynamic is already complicated with the realities of opposing communication styles or life experience, for example. The integration of a D/s a relationship structure brings forth several additional layers which have the power to transform and empower us. However, such a power exchange forces us to consider our designated roles in the relationship. More importantly, what if the relationship you desire is a part-time D/s relationship? When does “boy serves dinner” begin and “boyfriend does the dishes” end? This workshop is focused on creating tangible as well as theoretical skills in which to structure a part-time D/s relationship. The personal experiences of the participants will be the blocks we use to build solid ways of determining what type of D/s relationship works for you, how to negotiate clear boundaries, and ways of incorporating D/s into your relationships in a part-time way which feels healthy, safe and fun.

 

Pony Play 101 – Ponygirl Bixy

Beginner/no experience required

Pony play is a form of BDSM, an exercise in D/s, a sexual game, an expression of one’s inner self, a fetish, and a whole lot more jumbled under one broad term. Pony play as a rule is based on PLAY—however that looks! Learn what it is and about the different ways it is expressed. You will get to explore the various ways human ponies and their partners express themselves, and about the gear and activities one enjoys when playing with or as a pony. As well, learn a few styles of activities you can do with your partner either at home or out at a party. Take home a set of pet play negotiation cards to help get a feel for the kind of pony you are looking for. There will be gear to look at and try out, and demonstrations.

 

Risky Business: Risk Management for Kinky Applications – Cara and Sarah

All Levels

Join two engineers and sometimes-heavy players for an in-depth exploration of risk in the context of kink. Together we’ll explore questions like: What is risk? How do we assess it holistically? How do we discuss risks with our partners in an open and sexy way? What roles does it serve in play? What influences perception of risk? Can we reduce actual risk while increasing perceived risk?

 

Rope Bondage 102: The Beauty and the Function – Lady Pearl

All Levels

So, you have a bottom and some rope. You want to restrain your partner and make it pretty too. This workshop will cover making a functional tie that is aesthetically pleasing while keeping your partner engaged throughout. Learn practical techniques on how to stay connected with your bottom while you erotically tangle them into a pretty package. This is a hands-on class, although participation is optional. If possible, bring rope (25’ feet long or more, 1/4” thick) and a willing partner.

 

Safe, Insane and Consensual – Kota HeartOn and Helena Swann

All Levels

This is a facilitated discussion where people living with mental illness and their partners can talk about navigating those experiences within D/s relationships and sex. In communities where a common norm is “safe, sane and consensual,” it can be hard to talk about the ways your crazy impacts your relationships and dynamics. We are hoping to create space for people to share experiences and strategies, and also to ask questions and learn from each other. As two experienced facilitators but not very experienced kinksters, our aim is to invite rich, participant-driven discussion. Whether you’ve thought about this a lot or are just starting to figure it out, you are invited to join us if you’re interested in exploring the relationships between your kink and your mental health.

 

Soles, Toes, and Heels: An Erotic Introduction to Feet and Shoes – Amazon Syren

Beginner/no experience required

In this workshop, the presenter introduces foot and shoe fetishism and hedonism, the axes of foot-focused desire (active/receptive, masculine/feminine, feet/shoes and others), and a variety of ways to incorporate the pleasures of the feet into your erotic adventures, including but not limited to massage and other manual stimulation, oral foot and boot worship, and fucking with your feet.

NOTE: This is an introductory workshop on sensual fetish play and does not cover bastinado or other foot-focused S/M.

 

A Stitch in Time: Leather Care and Repair – Beth Tyler

Beginner/no experience required

This workshop is on the repair and care of our toys and leathers. Beth will be detailing leather care for boots, clothes and straps. She will also be talking about repairs that we can do ourselves, the materials needed and just how to keep your toys alive. Beth will be bringing samples of tools and supplies; participants should feel free to bring along something that they might want to fix.

 

What It Is that We Are: Leather and Kinky Identities – Youkali Youkali

All Levels

The word “identity” actually refers to two distinct notions: the fact that we are ourselves, as a constellation of traits, or “ipse”, and the fact that we are similar to others, based on one or many traits, or “idem.” Many discussions in the Leather and kink communities revolve around these two facets of identity: how we identify in the gender or power spectrum, what are our preferred roles, whether we identify as Leather or kinky, but also how we relate with other members of the community, exactly which part of the community we identify with, and, sometimes, who should be part or not be part of our gatherings. This workshop is intended as a discussion on Leather and kinky identities on both fronts: selfhood and sameness. Alternating between small group thought-sharing and larger discussions, and using elements of theories and examples, we will explore these notions as individuals and also as social beings in search of other members of our species.

 

Writing Kink – Alex Cafarelli

All Levels

Have you ever wanted to write kinky stories, BDSM poems, or leather scenes? Writing Kink is a hands-on workshop for new and seasoned writers who are ready to get their hands dirty with words. The writing practice we will use is based on the Amherst Writers and Artists (AWA) method. This technique is non-judging, non-competitive and ripe with possibility for erotic stories that range from seductively sensual to twisted and torturous. Please come prepared with a pen and notebook or a laptop.